April was a quiet one for the Elder family, in every sense except the emotional one.
As usual, it was filled with many highs and many lows — with the occasional milestone scattered in between.
Here’s what’s going on in our life right now.
We Had The Craziest Day Known to Man
Saturday, 17 April 2021, was one for the books. The day started out incredibly! Arabella woke up later than usual and hopped in bed with Daddydaims and I so we got a smidge of a lie-in, which was wonderful.
Then Arabella wrote her name for the very first time. Granted, the name she goes by is two letters long but still, we were over the moon at this milestone.
We then headed out to a children’s party — more on that down below — and I put my best mom-face forward. It was four hours of (fabulous) chaos and Arabella had the best time playing with old and new friends.
Now, a few days prior, a fire broke out at Charlotte Maxeke Hospital. Both of Daddydaims’ grandparents were patients at the hospital at the time of the fire and his grandad’s ward was evacuated due to fears of smoke inhalation.
A few hours after this, the fire reignited and the entire hospital was evacuated. Luckily, his grandmother had her phone on her so she was able to let everyone know where her ward was transferred to but the same couldn’t be said for his grandfather.
So after the party we went to fetch his grandmother from a hospital in Soweto and then we began our search for his grandfather. At this point the hospital hadn’t communicated with anyone but thankfully the sisters had an idea of where he was.
We left Soweto and headed in the direction of Germiston in the hopes that we would find his grandfather at Bertha Gxowa Hospital. It was around this time that Arabella began complaining of a stomach ache to the extent that I was happy we were going hospital hopping because I figured her tummy pains would lead us to one anyway.
By the time we arrived at the hospital we got a call from Daddydaims’ dad saying that the hospital had called them to let them know that the grandfather had indeed been evacuated to Bertha Gwoxa Hospital — victory!
We made the long way home and dropped the grandparents off along the way. I had a ladies night planned for that evening, but with Arabella’s tummy ache (which, true as Bob, went away approximately 0.25 seconds after I cancelled) and the emotional rollercoaster of the day we watched a family movie and called it a night.
We Had a Playdate
Given what went down the day before, we were almost tempted to scrap our Sunday plans and potter around the house. Boy, am I glad we didn’t.
After an awesome service at church, we headed over to Smoke Daddy’s to meet up with one of Arabella’s best school buddies and his parents. Seriously, what a treat!
I ordered a small Cookies n Cream milkshake (I’m a child, I know) and I was floored when it arrived. It was GIGANTIC! Super delicious too, but it was practically dessert so I had a difficult time finishing my lunch (also delicious).
The playground is so well thought out and the kids had an absolute jol together, which is the most important thing. If you haven’t been yet, definitely plan your kiddo’s next playdate there.
Guys, Arabella’s friend’s parents are so cool. Because we’d only ever hung out with them outside of school once, at Arabella’s birthday bash, I was kinda worried that our afternoon would be full of awkward silences and forced conversation.
Thankfully, that was not the case at all and we’re already planning our next hang out. Look at us, being social and such!
Daily Gratitude Log
In last month’s Life Right Now, I announced my plans to keep a daily gratitude log. It was a fun little exercise and one that made me properly reflect on the day that had passed.
Some days I really had to dig deep to find something to be thankful for, while on others it was glaringly obvious what got me through the day. It’s not been revolutionary or anything, but I definitely feel more thankful for the fact that each and every day I can find something to be thankful for.
Weirdly, I came across this quote quite by accident.
“Feeling gratitude and not expressing it is like wrapping a present and not giving it”
– William Arthur Ward
So I think I will continue on with this through May. But this time round I will make sure that if my feeling of thankfulness is triggered by someone else’s words, actions, or very existence I will let them know that I’m thankful for them.
My Covid Baby
Since South Africa’s current lockdown situation has pretty much gone back to life as normal but with masks, it’s easy to forget how much of an impact living in a global pandemic has on our little ones.
This month served as our reminder.
First, Arabella is rattling on about what she’s going to be like as a grown up. Of course, she switches professions multiple times, says she’s going to marry Daddydaims, and that she’s going to own a pet dog.
But then she goes on to describe her dream mask. It’s a mermaid mask with blue and purple sequins and LOTS of sparkles. Even though she’s only been wearing a mask for one year of her life, it’s already ingrained in her and I don’t know if that’s a good thing or a bad thing.
Secondly, she accidentally admitted that her and her school bestie shared a marshmallow at lunchtime and she was mortified because they’re not allowed to share their lunches at school anymore. It’s a small thing, but it was a huge part of my school life when I was younger and to me it’s just so normal.
The old normal at least.
Arabella’s First Birthday Bash
Around this time last year Arabella came home with her first ever invitation to a party. Of course, with the Covid Lockdown, the party was cancelled. This year, Covid restrictions were eased and so the birthday girl got the party she had been dreaming of.
If you know me in real life, you’ll know that I’m the queen of awkward. I don’t know why, but I say and do silly things when I’m feeling awkies, and this day was no exception.
You know when you arrive at a shindig, and you’re the first ones to do so, and the hosts are still running around sorting out last minute details so you make awkward conversation with them whenever they wizz past you? That was Arabella and I.
So because of this, shortly after Daddydaims’ dropped us off at the party I texted him to say “You dropped us off at the wrong place. Did Google Maps lead us to Awkwardville?”.
As it turns out, my joke didn’t land very well and for a second Daddydaims thought I was being serious, that we really were at the wrong house. And that some strange person with questionable intentions had let us in.
In the time between me sending that message and him reading it, other guests began to arrive and so I duly packed my phone away and began socialising. If I hadn’t, I would have seen that Daddydaims was frantically trying to call me.
Luckily, my bladder unknowingly came to my rescue and I happened to pull out my phone while on the loo. Eleven missed calls! As I checked my phone, Daddydaims called again and relayed to me how he was in the midst of speeding back to the address to rescue us.
Oh, how we laughed. After he got over wanting to divorce me for making him stress so hard, that is.
With little to no chance of being abducted, Arabella had a wonderful time and so did I. We met a lovely bunch of people and Arabella got to wear the sparkly pink dress she got as a gift from her aunty Jessie at her own birthday.
Posts You May Have Missed
In last month’s Life Right Now I bragged about not missing a single post this year. Well, in true Tash fashion, come the first week of April — BOOM! — I missed a post without even meaning to.
When I finished writing my post about 10 of The Best Baby Names (And 10 of The Worst!) I forgot to press the ‘schedule’ button. In due fashion, I only realised this on Thursday. Insert face palm emoji here.
I also wrote a post about my favourite praise and worship songs, My Top 5 Jesus Jams, and I was a little nervous to share that to the blog but the post was really well received and I feel great.
Sheldon from Optimum Labour Law also popped back on the blog to fill you in on Your Leave Entitlements. As a working mom, I thought I knew a fairly decent amount about what leave means for me, but I was wrong.
April has been a wonderful month. In between a ridiculous amount of social events, milestones, locating missing grandparents, and general mom life, I found my stride once again.
GUYS! I am so excited for May. In the spirit of Mother’s Day, I have collaborated with a bunch of truly incredible mothers to create a series of blog posts for a little something I’ve called “One Mom”.
I’m ridiculously proud of these four posts that have been put together and cannot wait to share them with you all. Though my fingers are itching to post them right this second, the first post of the series is being published on 5 May at 12:00 so be sure to subscribe so you’re the first to read it.